I’m interested in your teachings. Thanks for the videos you have available on YouTube. They are so fascinating and I love the sound of your voice. Hopefully I can come to the retreat in Thailand this October. I’d like to meet you someday.
Meanwhile, I have a question to ask you. I’d really like your advice on this: I recently left a job due to feeling covertly antagonized by one of the people on staff there. He was unbelievably stealth about what he was doing.
No one believed me because no one saw it and they think he is such a nice guy. But for various reasons he disliked me and with a laser like focus set out to undermine me day in and day out.
I rarely saw him do any work. Energetically crushing me was quite plainly his number one priority.
Now that I have had some space and distance, I see clearly what he was doing. I was too confused before and I couldn’t articulate it, nor did I fully grasp the maneuvers he was using. But now I see and I can name them.
My question is: do you think I should contact the former supervisor there, a decent man who expressed sincere concern for me since I had to leave suddenly, and tell him the truth about why I left?
Should I tell on the workplace bully in other words. I am dying to but feel hesitant.
If you could give me your advice on this I’d really appreciate it. Thank you.
I’m glad you like my interviews. I will be possibly doing another one next week. It would be nice to see you in October.
As for your workplace bully, nothing ever comes from payback, nor will you resolve your circumstances by being unsettled about not resolving your personal dilemma with this man. His world is obviously very uncomfortable and something within him sees that you could see him.
It is best to be as kind as possible and always forgiving. It would have been a very good exercise for you to stay in those circumstances and gained his trust by being trustworthy yourself, no matter how uncomfortable he was making you feel.
If you were still in your circumstances, I would advise you to pretend that you don’t see him, so that he doesn’t notice you noticing. This will give you a very unique opportunity to observe your own prejudices, even though you are the one being wronged.
Life is not black and white, nor is there any unfolding karma. There are good people and bad people in the world and you are in the wrong place at the right time and now that you’ve left you are in the right place at the wrong time.
If you were to go back and speak to him directly you would definitely be in the wrong place at the wrong time, because leaving means that you don’t return and ultimately leave him to his fate because of that gesture.
Even though you asked me a question, it is very difficult to answer it irrefutably, in terms of what was, because what is now is different. Life is a puzzle and the pieces unfortunately are in the wrong spot.
Don’t get me wrong, many pieces in my life are in the wrong spot too and I watch these elements very carefully from a great distance, even if they are right up next to me.
Your challenge will give you a very particular resolve in comparison to your moments that are continually escaping you. Read Whisperings of the Dragon. All the answers you are seeking are in this book.
At this moment I can only reach out with a gesture of kindness towards you. As you know I wasn’t there to see what you saw and maybe I would see something different. How complex our lives are.
So once again I will say be kind and generous to all those who don’t deserve to be treated kindly. Give to those who are greedy. Don’t allow yourself to be possessed and don’t be possessed by the circumstances you can’t resolve. This is the only thing that you need to be aware of.
Now graciously move on and look forward with positivity and if you meet someone similar in the future you will have the opportunity to watch them very carefully, as well as yourself. Because in actuality their appearance within you is your challenge.